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Balancing my Desire for Casual Encounters While Pursuing a Committed Partnership
Being a gay man approaching 50, my life has involved numerous, largely enjoyable years pursuing casual sex with other men since the age of 19. During my fourth decade, I had a committed partnership which continued for four years, however I never felt completely content, because I didn't experience love nor intimately fulfilled. The fact is that my constant desire has been for uncommitted intimacy. Whenever I begin seeing any man, once the newness dwindles, I always get the urge to have sex with new partners again.
Reflecting on the Possibility of Monogamy
Currently, I'm contemplating if I’ll ever be able to sustain a faithful partnership. I understand that numerous homosexual males have open relationships, but from my observations, they appear demanding, often resulting in lots of heartache and envy for everyone involved. In many ways, I want another man to care for me while allowing me to pursue other intimacies, but I fear the emotional drain this would cause. Is it best to continue to have spontaneous encounters and accept that a lasting partnership is not possible? I’m feeling somewhat confused.
Each individual's intimate path fluctuates. Try not to think of your relationship needs or your ability to handle different types of sexual unions in a finite way. Your needs in your current state may well change in the future; eventually you might become less ambivalent and discover some clarity and a suitable route … or perhaps not. At some point you might meet a person offering a life-changing chance to you through mirroring what you want in a holistic fashion … and at another point you may choose that non-committal encounters are best for you. Fretting over what lies ahead and engaging in the “What if?” game is simply rooted in fear and a waste of your efforts. Try to be present with your partners, and see the value of each person you connect with intimately an intimate bond. When and if you are ever ready to strengthen genuine closeness with one partner, it will be clear.
- Pamela Stephenson Connolly practices as a American therapy professional who specialises in addressing intimacy issues.
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